Hours spent on figuring out the perfect outfit to wear. Looking for something cute, but not too cute to where it looks like I tried too hard. Do I show up a little early? Or should I walk in right on the dot? My anxiety-ridden self knows that first impressions make or break an interaction.
The description above may sound like I’m getting ready for a first date. In a sense, I am.
When this year’s spring break snuck up on me, I was a little disappointed that I hadn’t created any extravagant plans. It’s my senior year of college after all. Bored and in my room, I decided to kick off a passion project I had brewing in my brain for a while.
The project: a collection of stories titled “Conversations with Strangers.”
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The goal: to strengthen my interviewing skills, I think. Or, make new friends. Regardless, I committed to putting myself out there.
And despite the fear and anxiety of putting myself out there, I created an Instagram story post asking people to reach out to me if they were interested in participating in my project. I gave zero indication of what it would be, yet, a flattering number of responses came my way.
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My anticipatedly mundane spring break quickly became packed with random plans sporadically spread throughout the week to meet with people I vaguely knew. Going into it, I really had no plan, but that was something I leaned into.
Whether it was a conversation over coffee, food or drinks, my interviewees and I had casual conversations about the happenings in our lives. Passions, likes and dislikes, controversial takes — I welcomed them all.
I made the decision to not record these conversations. I wanted to be fully immersed and take in the experience around me. After these chats, I would go home and word vomit about the conversations and reflect on them. I got to know these people better while also discovering new things about myself.
In turn, I grew in ways I didn’t expect to. I’ve become more confident in myself.
I cultivated new relationships with people who have been around me for a large part of my college career. This came as a surprise because in the last few months of college, the last thing I expected was to form new relationships with people who have always seemed on the periphery of my life.
Taking the leap and having “first-dates” with these people challenged my preconceived notions and reinforced the classic cliché that’s been repeated to me time and time again: Don’t judge a book by its cover.
Janea Melido is the News and Managing Editor for The Beacon. She can be reached at melido24@up.edu.
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